Ramblings: I hate "Love yourself"

How on earth do you love yourself? What does love for yourself feel like? It doesn't feel like romantic love. It doesn't feel like your parent's love, or the love you have for friends, or the love you have for your pets. Or the love you have for your children (I assume...I don't have them.) There is no way to know… » 4/13/15 9:06pm 4/13/15 9:06pm

Friendship woes (long and rambling)

I have a friend that I have a somewhat volatile relationship with. I love her, but I'm coming to realize that if she doesn't have full-blow narcissistic personality disorder, she has some heavy-duty narcissistic tendencies. She lives in an area of the city that's a huge pain in the ass to get to without a car. It can… » 3/16/15 8:29pm 3/16/15 8:29pm

Dear Groupthink I have a date on Wednesday

I need to figure something out and my wording isn't quite right. I know we all talk a lot about how casual sex is something women would be much more likely to engage in, if the physical and social consequences weren't so dire. But trying to explain that to men is sometimes like hitting my head against a brick wall.… » 2/28/15 8:40pm 2/28/15 8:40pm

Unpopular Opinion Alert: Celery is delicious

I don't care haters. Celery is awesome. It's crunchy. It's crisp. It's refreshing. It's excellent on its on or as a dip delivery vehicle. Cooked, it add a lovely herbaceous depth of flavor to soups and stews. It is always in my fridge. When I can't get excited about eating any other vegetable, I can always crunch down… » 2/12/15 4:34pm 2/12/15 4:34pm

I prefer migraines with a visual aura

Because at least then I know exactly what it is. There's no waffling "is this a migraine or is it just a headache?" "Do I need to take something right away or will it go away?" Plus they're usually less painful, although I feel significantly more spacey. That might be the result of taking medicine right away, though. » 2/08/15 10:10pm 2/08/15 10:10pm

Lifehacker makes me feel inadequate

Yes, there is some good stuff on there. But mostly it makes me feel totally insecure about all the ways I'm fucking up my life. Life isn't something to "hack." You live it, ok? It's weird and messy and it's not like there's some secret formula. But that damn site makes me feel like if I just do everything they say,… » 1/22/15 4:40pm 1/22/15 4:40pm

Give me your best bean recipes!

I am trying REALLY hard to save money on groceries, which is challenging, because I eat pretty close to a paleo diet. No wheat, and very few grains/starchy foods (no rice), means I can't fill up on cheap eats. I really need to eat some meat, otherwise I get shaky, but I'm trying to cut back. I can, however, eat the… » 1/19/15 10:14pm 1/19/15 10:14pm